….before you have to. For some reason holding down two jobs, doing charity work helping small businesses, managing a household and planning an international move was not enough of a signal to clear some space for some inner work.
There are times when stretching yourself with multiple challenges leads to great breakthroughs, whether in knowledge, understanding or the sense of wholeness that comes through helping someone else achieve their goals. Other times you may be filling your time, running about being ‘busy busy’ because you are avoiding being with yourself, being quiet; facing the reality of who you really are in that moment.
For me, during those few months when one year ends and another begins – in this case 2016 – I was transitioning from being in one country to moving to another, physically and mentally. I became disconnected and distracted by to-do lists rather than taking time to honour the momentum of this change. In the past, if I didn’t find space for myself, events would force it on me.
This time the first whisper was when I fell down a very long flight of stone steps at the new Art Museum on the Padang. I apologise for scaring everyone in the ticket hall who had to witness my messy tumble. Other than severe bruises and a chipped elbow, I was fine.
Did I listen? The louder klaxon came early in January when I turned my ankle and broke it. So now, no choice; I had to take a break. Literally. I recognised the situation that had been created by my actions immediately whilst waiting for the x-ray, and laughed. Don’t wait for the whisper, take that break.
“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, remember that what you now have was once amongst the things you only hoped for.”
Franz Kafka encountered a little girl in the park where he went walking daily. She was crying. She had lost her doll and was desolate. Kafka offered to help her look for the doll and arranged to meet her the next day at the same spot. Unable to find the doll he composed a letter from the doll and read it to her when they met. “Please do not mourn me; I have gone on a trip to see the world. I will write you of my adventures.” This was the beginning of many letters. When he and the little girl met he read her from these carefully composed letters the imagined adventures of the beloved doll. The little girl was comforted.
When the meetings came to an end Kafka presented her with a doll. An attached letter explained: “my travels have changed me… “
Many years later, the now grown girl found a letter stuffed into an unnoticed crevice in the cherished replacement doll. It said: “everything that you love, you will eventually lose, but in the end, love will return in a different form.”
What we love never leaves us; it is only that we get fixated on a particular form and fail to recognize its transformation.
“I love Mickey Mouse more than any woman I have ever known.“
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Lama Marut and Cindy Lee will be giving a three-part series of talks about how to have Mindful Relationships. We’re all always and already in relationship with others – with people at work, our friends, partners, and family members. In this three-part workshop, we’ll explore how to apply spiritual principles to these relationships so as to maximize the rewarding aspects and minimize the difficulties. We’ll begin by investigating the preconditions for entering into a new relationship, move on to how to maintain and improve relationships we are already in, and conclude by discussing how to successfully “break up” and transition a relationship from one type to another.
31st Oct 2014 | Friday, 7.30-9.00pm – Part 1
1st Nov 2014 | Saturday, 7.30-9.00pm – Part 2
2nd Nov 2014 | Sunday, 7.30-9.00pm – Part 3
Cocoon Studio 315 Outram Road #02-07 Tan Boon Liat Building
Lama Marut is in Singapore and will be teaching, “Why Things Don’t Happen the Way You Think They Do: Nagarjuna on the Emptiness of Karma and Causation.”(taken from Nargajuna’s “Root Verses on the Middle Way”.)
Chuck and Angie, who have studied with Lama Marut over the last few years, will share this four-class Beginner Level Middle Way course, which lays out the foundational structure of any authentic spiritual path. Recognizing the problems of a non-spiritual life; taking responsibility for one’s own well-being; the possibility of an alternative to a life of suffering and victimhood; and the basics of a coherent and efficient method for reaching the goal of true happiness.
Dates: Mondays – November 10th, 17th, 24th and December 1st
Lama Marut’s book tour comes to Singapore! Please join us in celebrating the launch of Lama Marut’s new book.
We are all desperately trying to be somebody, to be “special”. We collect “friends” and “followers” online as symbols of our worth. We hunt fame and visibility. But maybe we’ve got it all wrong. With his edgy tone and radical perspective, Lama Marut follows up A Spiritual Renegade’s Guide to the Good Life by calling for the biggest revolution of all: the overthrow of our obsessive quest to be somebody. He shows readers that living an ethical life—a life of selflessness rather than unbridled egoism—is the key to true happiness and the foundation for creating a better world. Without the need to seclude oneself in a monastery or retire to a cave in the Himalayas, Marut gives readers action steps and simple meditations to find true fulfillment.
Join us for Public talk, book sales, book signing and light refreshments!
Public talk: “Somebody, Nobody, Everybody: Self Improvement, No Self and Expanding the Self.”
Date: Thursday 30th October 2014
Time: 7.30pm to 9.30pm
Venue: Civil Service Club, 60 Tessensohn Road, Auditorium at Level 3, Singapore 217664
A couple of things have happened recently that really made an impact on me, forcing me to start seeing beyond my own life.
A friend staying with me shared her experiences as a journalist in the middle east. She has witnessed horrors that haunt her morning, noon and night. These memories manifest in her as feelings of helplessness and depression.
Around the same time, my friend’s helper was undergoing the most awful suffering, abandoned by her own family and finally dying, without anyone realising.
Suffering walks on the same pavement that we walk on, but sometimes our eyes are wide shut. Suffering is being experienced by people who share our lives and who are seemingly going through the same happy experiences that we are. Suffering is sharing our tables, only an arms length away, but at a distance we just can’t seem to breach.
Yes, I am grateful for my life, but that isn’t enough anymore. Now I find myself watching people and listening much more closely – to understand – to share – the burden and joy that life brings.
Sumati Marut will be continuing his teachings on the Bhagavad Gita. This is part of an on-going series of teachings on this famous spiritual classic. With his easy to understand style and down-to-earth humour, Sumati Marut’s teaching style appeals to all, regardless of religious background.
When: Monday, 2 December 2013 Time: 7.30 – 9.30pm At: Civil Service Club Auditorium L3, 60 Tessensohn Road Cost: Free
Sumati Marut will be concentrating on the nine chapters of his recent book, “A Spiritual Renegade’s Guide to the Good Life”, and his talks will cover spiritual motivation, forgiveness, gratitude, renunciation, karmic management and strategies for staying happy all day, every day.
When: Tues – Friday, 3rd to 6th December 2013 Time: 7.30 – 9.30pm At: Civil Service Club Auditorium L3, 60 Tessensohn Road Cost: Free
Sumati Marut has been invited back to the Buddhist Library after his popular talk on karma. This time he will be talking about The Four Noble Truths; the Buddha’s thoughts on the human condition. Suggest that you get to this venue early to secure a seat!
When: Friday, 7th June Time: 7.30 – 9.00pm At: No 2, Lorong 24A, Geylang Cost: Free